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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • He was dead the moment he got caught. Nevermind guilty. I don’t care how many technicalities or strategies his lawyer might have. There’s no way in hell the powers that be will let him have anything other than being made a harsh example for all of us plebs.

    This isn’t about him commiting the crime of murder. This about scaring us into submission so we don’t get any ideas. Even if he’s actually innocent because of they don’t catch the killer they can’t use it as an example, so they need someone.

    He’s not walking. Get ready for the inevitable. Even if the word of the law is on his side they’ll pull something last moment. It’s really naive to think they’d ever allow themselves being made a joke by us.




  • Look, I’m glad you took that off your chest. My point still remains and I won’t be shamed into silence. And no, it’s not your fault or any gender in particular. Hell, it is a problem of toxic masculinity, and both women and men are to blame.

    I’m glad you care and please, keep caring. It does make a difference. Mentalities change one person at a time.

    You talk about men “choosing” unhealthy ways to deal with pain and grief. I’m sorry, but you have no idea what it is to be a man. Your intentions may be good but you can never truly understand how lonely male existence is because you haven’t experienced it. Same way I can never truly understand what it is being put down and condescended for being a woman, among other things. I see it, and it troubles me, but I never experienced it. I’m not arrogant to pretend I know how it feels.

    This is my experience being a man. When you fall apart and become vulnerable everybody runs. Repulse is the right word. You can feel the contempt when you show that weakness. Both in men and women. This isn’t a men versus women thing. I’m not talking about SO’s running away when we’re weak. While it does happen, in my experience a SO is one of the few people you can actually show vulnerability. That, family and, if you’re lucky, a few close friends. Beyond that, our society simply isn’t wired to accept weakness on a man. It’s not men’s fault, it’s not women’s fault, it’s the culture itself.

    Can it be fixed? I don’t know. Either way, I feel frustrated by it and it’s my right to voice that frustration.


  • I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know it sucks. The truth is, nobody cares about a man’s suffering. There’s something in a man’s weakness that repulses most people. Even people that like you and would love to see you do good. When I went through the same I realized the only people who care are close family, people who can relate and people who have some interest in you. It sucks but you must know it’s not about you.

    That being said you have both sides to take into account. Your so-called friends are not your friends and they never were. Period. Erase them from your life. They deserve even less thoughts than your ex. When the chips are down they showed you what they were about. Now you know how worthless they are. Some people are not as lucky and stay in toxic and superficial “friendships” for years and that stops them from finding actual good friends.

    And, non withstanding all that, a depressed and sad person is not a good company. It brings you down. And that’s OK because we make sacrifices for the people we love. But if the person is in a vicious cycle of negativity and always complaining to the same person, it gets tiresome pretty fast. I’m not saying it’s your case, it’s just something to keep your mind on. Friends should support you but only you can actually fix yourself. Usually time heals everything but, if it’s not, it’s your responsibility to take care of your mental health (therapist, psychiatrist, etc). There’s only so much a friend can do for you. And don’t put all that weight on one person. Spread it around.

    And stop talking crazy about ending it. It hurts. It’s one of the worst pains I ever felt. It’s almost unbearable. But it does get better. And eventually you will feel whole again. It’s a hard road but there is paradise up ahead. But for now you have to walk through hell to reach it. But I promise you, it will be worth every step.


  • Let me guess, you don’t speak natively one of your country’s minority languages. But you have a grudge you have to live with those pesky insignificant dialects. You are not special. People like you are a dime a dozen in countries with linguistic minorities.

    You are defending the disappearance of languages with fewer speakers, languages you assume as less important because you are a chauvinist. You’re not advocating the learning of other languages as L2, which would be a good thing. Lingua francas are a good thing. Pressuring minorities to reject their own native language is just chauvinistic and racist/xenophobic, no matter how hard you try to defend it as simple pragmatism (which is always just an excuse).

    We don’t have the slightest common ground here. Our values are much different do there’s no point in discussing this with you. I’ve known lots of people like you. The country next to mine is filled with such people. My own smaller country was the only one lucky enough to stay independent and I’ve heard speeches like yours way too many times.





  • No. Racism is prejudice on the basis of race. Being part of a group that is generally a target doesn’t excuse your own behavior and give a blank card for your own prejudices.

    We are ALL grown-ups. Act like it. Asking someone to be aware of their own privilege is not the same as telling someone they’re inherently guilty to the genitals or skin color they were born with, regardless of their own actions. That is NOT “being asked to self-reflect” as you put it. That is simply prejudice and you will be called out on it. The same way I will call-out a cat-calling man, a man-hating woman or a raging racist, because to me you are all the same.









  • Trump isn’t stupid, at least not that stupid. Your analogy would work better if instead of shooting his own foot he’s shooting Uncle Sam’s foot. You act confused because you think he works for Uncle Sam. He does not. He’s a Russian asset: his job is to make sure Uncle Sam never walks again, while pretending he’s not doing it on purpose so he can keep doing it.

    When you look at it that way, all his actions make perfect sense. He works for Putin and he’s doing a good job. Until people realize this he’ll keep sabotaging the US.