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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation

    That seems positive. But it’s your call.

    For me, “conforming” means listening, considering my audience, controlling interjections, and asking people about stuff. I don’t feel like I’m denying myself, I feel like I’m being more considerate.

    I can see how other kinds of conformance could be awful. Denying one’s sexuality or something like that.


  • If the new you is closer to the person you want to be, isn’t that a win?

    I feel like I do this enough that it becomes a comfortable habit. Occasionally, I still want to interrupt people to tell them how wrong they are, or how right I am, or just become the centre of attention. But that isn’t who I want to be. And that urge seems to diminish as I learn to listen and ask questions, and then that becomes more of a habit.

    But I guess it depends on what you’re editing.