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  • I have had a very similar experience. I still avoid driving whwnever I can. A different take on what your father said, I think a car accident is just another, fairly common, lesson in how to drive. It can be true both that almost everyone has had an accident AND that being in an accident can be traumatic and very off-putting. Your feelings are absolutely valid. Sadly, in the U.S., being able to drive is more or less required to be able to participate in pretty much anything.

    Ultimately, my crash drove me to be a much more careful and aware driver, and while I still hate to drive, looking back I think being in an accident was probably inevitable for me. I don’t know where I’m going with this, I can’t give advice or anything, just wanted to share.











  • Honestly, just tell them to let you know, in private if they feel it necessary, if you make them uncomfortable. In general, jokes about people being trans/gendernonconforming are ok, as long as it’s not the one “joke” – identifying as an attack helicopter/dragon/ridiculous things. Pretty much just don’t make fun of them for being trans, but it’s fine finding humor about their transition, if it makes sense. It’s generally pretty easy to tell when someone has a problem with you being trans and is going to be a dick to you under the veil of humor, and when someone is joking around with you. Just make sure they know to let you know if you make them uncomfortable, and tey not to be a dick. The fact that you’re asking makes me think pretty much anything you’d consider saying is forgivable at worst.

    Edit: I kinda fixated on the joke part, mostly because everything else is pretty simple. If you mess up pronouns or anything like that, don’t make a big deal out of it, just correct yourself and move on. They’re just another person