I’m in my mid 40’s.

It’s not particularly uncommon for people in regional Australia to own their own house with no mortgage by my age.

It’s pretty tough to find a family home that costs less than 10x average wage.

So, as a kind of line in the sand I’d say maybe a third of 45 year olds living in regional Australia could “survive” for 10 years with no income.

Thats true, but i think this guy is kinda next level.

I’m not a psychologist but I suspect there’s something amiss here.

Like a lot of these people if he steps back from his loyalty to Trump, he’s kind of admitting that he’s partially responsible for what’s happened.

Clinging to this shaky narrative of how this is actually a good thing allows him to offload the guilt.

I think this might be “delusional” in the clinical sense.

Over time the belief becomes more entrenched. Something like muscle memory but a thought pattern. It will then become the basis for even nuttier thoughts.

It’s sad for him, it’s sadder for her, it’s even sadder for their kids who might me next. It’s just shit all the way down.

I was gonna say. Things might be different if I was in poverty and in central America, but for the rest of us the US just seems like a real awful place to be.

Good lord. I’m not having a debate about the adequacy of an analogy. Well done.

Like any analogy, it doesn’t perfectly map to the complex issue being analogised (?), but it’s not as absurd as you’re making out.

The architecture for plugin support is not free. Even if no plugins are active the platform is built to support all the extra nonsense.

lighttpd is the leanest webdav implementation i can think of. Obviously it doesn’t have sync and sharing and permissions, but it’s an interesting point of reference demonstrating how over engineered nextcloud really is.

If you’re a fan, and want all of this stuff bundled together then fine, have at it. As I said up top, I am using it but I dislike it immensely.

Those are add-ons.

Besides which, o365 is not a single self hosted php behemoth.

I’m loathe to extoll the virtues of 365. I don’t use it and never will.

Oh please. AWD is not “better” 4WD. 2 different things for completely different purposes.

Sure that’s why I drive my 4wd anywhere i want to go - i don’t want or need 4wd but I can just not use that functionality.

Sorry what office suite is basic NC functionality that has been there for a long time?

Well if I uninstaller them what would i complain about?

Nextcloud isn’t a 365 competitor?

It’s filesync with contacts and calendar.

Even once you build in documents and spreadsheets, 365 at least has separate applications for that - its not a single overblown behemoth.

KeepassXC is the only thing that makes sense to me.

I don’t want all my passwords stored with some huge target like lastpass or bitwarden.

Encrypted local (and synced) DB is the only way.

Kinda sounds awful honestly.

I do use nextcloud for my small team. It’s the best of the selfhosted file sync platforms.

That said, it’s obscenely over engineered.

Who ever wanted a file sync platform that also does calendaring and contacts?

you know what your kids going to tell you a decade from now?

Yeah I kinda do.

It’s true that I won’t know what problems they’re encountering or friendships they’re navigating, but they’re only going to “ask” me to do reasonable things within appropriate boundaries.

They might say they’re embarrassed if I’m around while they’re entertaining their friends, but they’re not going to tell me to go hide in my room because that’s not something children expect of their parents.

To put it plainly, I intend to set and maintain boundaries.

I’m definitely on the younger end for a mother of a 12 year old since I had him extremely early, so I feel like I’d be less embarrassing than other moms.

I kinda don’t really understand this angle.

If you’re 12, I would’ve thought that if your mum is 30 or 60 they’re still an “embarrassing” parent.

Your kid wanting their own space with their friends isn’t a reflection on your relationship with them, it’s just their own growth.

Based on what little information we have, my guess would be that at some point your son has been to someone else’s house and their mother stayed in her room and they talked about how cool that was.

I think the only answer here is to explain that you were looking forward to meeting his friends, but you’ll do your best to give them some space, but you’re not going to be confined to your room.

he told me he was gonna have some friends over, but he asked me if I could stay in my room while they hangout

FR. My kids are just toddlers but a decade from now my kid isn’t going to tell me to stay in my room.

Oh wow it’s you, PugJesus.

I love the photos you post in the various ~historyporn communities.

I had a feeling this would lead nowhere.

precisely the point I was trying to make.

Oh man.

My comment was intended to imply that the term “hacking” defies definition because it has been grossly overused and misconstrued over many decades.

Sure you might be able to convey what it means to you but of course it means different things to everyone else, with each definition being equally appropriate.

Er go, any discussion is one of semantics.

I thought marines were generally trump voters?

As in my assumption is they’re mostly on board with Trumps agenda and happy to serve.