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I used this service breifly a while ago. Not enough to say whether it’s good or not, but I remember it working just fine.

Is Streamio considered safe/private? I remember looking into it a while back and saw something about needing an account on their servers or something.

I used Kodi with addons for ages but switched to jellyfin because kodi felt too clunky and slow for my wife.

“To better assist you please describe the nature of your emergency… Let’s try this again. To better assist…”

$1 and a bag of crickets, final offer.

Open to negotiations…

I feel like everyone thinks they’re behind in life in general. It’s a really messed up mind set society puts us in.

It might feel like a big thing now but you’ll be fine. I went to get my GED once and failed the test, I thought it was the end of the world. Turns out none of it mattered and I ended up doing pretty well for myself.

A few years ago we bought a dishwasher when we were in no place to be spending money on something unnecessary, but my wife was 8 months pregnant and wanted one. We bought the cheapest one at I think Lowes, if I recall correctly it was around $100, maybe $120.

The ducking thing doesn’t have buttons, it has some stupid sensor panel, not touchscreen but is supposed to mimic it I guess. The sensors just don’t fucking work, ever. I spend 10 minutes loading the thing and 15 minutes trying to get it to start. Most of the time I have to cut the power from the breaker a few times to eventually get it to work. It’ll just change through all the settings beeping like crazy, so we have to keep it shut which means our dishes don’t dry properly. For a while I could only get it to start on the intense mode so it took 3 hours to run, now it only works on normal. It’s like I have to do a magic spell each time but the steps change weekly.

I would love to throw it out and get a new one but it technically works and it’s only 3 years old.

I just use a knife. My wife got a fancy electric can opened a few years back and loves it but I can’t stand the thing.

My son is more observant than shy but a lot of people chalk it up to shy. Sometimes he’d rather watch kids play than join in, like he’s just trying to figure it out.

One thing that I think helped was me not getting involved immediately when things go wrong. It used to be we’d go to the park with a soccer ball and some kid would come up and just take the ball (usually trying to play with him) or get to close to him and he would lose it, run over to me and that would be the end of it. If I was lucky we’d stay at the park and move away from the other kids.

I tried teaching him to use his “big boy bark” and now when a kid does something he really doesn’t like he’ll handle it himself, usually just by yelling something like “stop”, “don’t do that”, “give me space”. Usually the other kid will come up to me and ask what’s wrong with him and I’ll translate “he told you not to do X, maybe you can try asking him first” and it results in the other kid being a little more concious of what they’re doing, and since my son can handle this stuff mostly himself he’s much more open to playing with other kids and continue playing if something doesn’t go his way. I can see him just letting stuff go without making a fuss now too, whether he doesn’t feel like the thing is worth his effort or he doesn’t want to upset his “new friend”.

While writing this out I realized my 3 year old almost exclusively plays with older kids, maybe it’s because they can somewhat grasp the stuff he’s trying to get accross? I think whenever we play with kids his age he gets frustrated and they try to touch him a lot which he doesn’t tolerate well.

Then again they’re kids and I don’t have a single clue what I’m doing or they’re thinking. I think the big boy bark is a good tool to have though, we got the idea from a bluey episode and I just annoyed the shit out of him for a few days straight and by the end of it he was telling me exactly what he didn’t like in a very clear voice

Nah nothing like that. I used to be an awful person, I’m still just trying to be better.

Although even at my worst I don’t think I would ever assault a child.

I had a kid who lives a block over egg my house a few years ago on Halloween. A few weeks later I saw him riding his bike and stopped him and just asked him not to do it again because it was a pain to clean properly. He apologized, thanked me for not yelling at him and then laughed when he saw my house that hasn’t been power washed in years with just a few clean spots where his eggs hit.

Now he comes over every week and plays soccer with me and my toddler and helps us with yard work in the summer.

A little bit of human decency and talking to a kid like they’re a person can go along way. Kids aren’t stupid, they just don’t know a lot of things.

I’m not sure how I feel about community service as a punishment. At the surface I think it’s a good idea, someone did something stupid so they have to go help out somewhere when they’d probably rather be doing something else, and it’s definitely a better alternative to beating your kids. I just feel like ultimately the people there should want to be there helping out, and forcing them to create a kind of divide between them and the people they’re supposed to be helping.

As a reckless teenager I had to do some court ordered community service and got to pick where I went, so I picked the shelter my mom and I were staying at thinking it’d be a breeze. On my first day there I heard some of the most vulgure things about the people staying there, I got the rundown on who everyone ordered to be there wished wasn’t alive, and how everyone generally didnt want to be there helping these people and would rather be anywhere else. I kept my head down while we were there so no one really recognized me, I honestly don’t think they saw us as people worth remembering anyway. I switched to a food bank after a few days because I couldn’t take it. It was a little better because most of the people working there were actual volunteers.

Not knocking your parenting method at all, I’m sure (I hope) your oldest isn’t spitting in a big pot of soup out of spite for being forced to be there.

Also kudos to you for not trying to scare your kids into submission. Everyone that I’ve seen try to use fear as a parenting tool has in my eyes failed and it shows through their kids, who you really can’t blame. I’m currently trying to get a neighborhood kid to stop coming around because his parents come over and scream too much, so the kid acts out, but I can’t figure out how to do that without making him feel like he’s just a bad kid who we don’t want around, it seems like he’d be a good kid with a little love in his life. He’s just a kid and the bad shit he does is entirely the parents fault.

It took 5 minutes to get my father in law to open teamviewer because he kept clicking on the first result which for some reason brought him to the teamviewer website instead of opening the fucking software he had installed already.

And you know what? I can’t blame him at all

I wish there was a good FOSS (or just works on Linux) alternative to adobe lightroom so I could stop fixing broken windows shit on my wife’s computer.

She’s a photographer and does a lot of heavy editing stuff. I know there’s some alternatives but she says nothing comes close for what she needs to do, and from the few examples she showed me I agree.

I don’t know what the fuck Microsoft is doing but almost everytime there’s an update something breaks on her laptop. The only thing she does is use lightroom, occasionally Photoshop and Firefox.

I recently had to use her laptop to make a windows installer USB for someone and Rufus was cool. When installing windows though it just didn’t see any of the drives in the laptop? Apparently I had to load storage drivers specific to that laptop, which weren’t available anywhere online I could find. I managed to get it working by loading a bunch of unrelated drivers for a different HP model laptop, none of them related to storage. I think it was the Bluetooth driver that got it working, after it installed nothing was working, no mouse, speakers, USB ports. I had to install all of those same drivers again for some reason. Before that just to make sure the drive wasn’t bad I installed Debian on there and what do you know, it just did it, because of course it did, and everything worked.

I got way off topic, but again what the fuck is microsoft doing?

I was gonna say I thought this had been the case forever. I don’t use this feature but I recall seeing it on pretty much every custom ROM I’ve used over the last few years.

I find that I’m pretty much useless after 4 hours. I usually do a 4 hour stretch during the day and then hop back on for another 2 hours when the kids are down and that seems to be the most productive for me.

I once worked at a place where I built out a bunch of internal tools that became pretty heavily integrated into the development workflow. Everything I built was the shittiest, most disgusting piece of garbage I’ve ever seen, but it worked. My job became solely managing these tools, as everyone else struggled to read and comprehend my filth.

I ended up switching jobs because they wouldn’t give me the compensation I asked for and half of the development team quit before my 2 weeks was up to avoid dealing with my slop, a lot of them were already considering leaving for lack of compensation, but this was the nail in the coffin.

I found out a few months later that instead of just going back to life without these tools or finding someone to take them over they just shut down the development department. The people who were left either got fired or moved to a different department to pursue a new career path.

Neat and simple. Thanks.

My wife said something like “the patriarchy hurts everyone, men included” and everything made a lot more sense.

I did call them out a bit. The thing that broke me was when I said something like “I provide a lot more than financial support. I cook, clean, change diapers etc…” And I saw the group split between the guys who do that stuff and those who don’t.

It made me sad, a lot of these guys are only a few years older than me and can’t really blame it on “how things used to be”. I felt like I was in the 50s or something and I needed to check if the bathrooms were segregated. I’ve never seen such ignorant toxic masculinity in real life, and I used to work in construction 10 years ago.

Someone else pointed out that they wouldn’t be able to survive off of 85% pay without finding gig/temp work. And I’ll admit, I’m in a fortunate enough position now that I didn’t put much thought into that 15% being detrimental. We’ll surely blow through most of our savings and that’ll hurt, but we’ll be alright.

With my first son I was working 2 jobs when he was born and we were already well behind on a lot of bills so the thought of leave didn’t ever begin to cross my mind. It does make me even more appreciative of the position we’re in now.