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Cake day: August 15th, 2023

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  • Yeah obviously this is terrible and shouldn’t happen but if I’d have been having sex with a hot older woman when I was a teenager that would have taken care of basically all the self esteem problems I had. It might opened me up to whole new problems, I’m not a psychologist so I can’t speak to that, but seeing myself as unfuckable was for sure the biggest issue at the time. I know because my self esteem did a 180 as soon as I started getting laid (with someone age appropriate). I can certainly see where the “nice” comments come from.












  • That narrative doesn’t really match with the video I saw at all. The protectors are across a street from him and pointing their weapons at him. They were far enough away that he may not have even been able to know they were talking to him. He is walking towards the crowd (and in range to shoot at them without getting closer if he was intending to do so) but is not pointing his rifle at them or holding it in a threatening manner. The video cut out as soon as he started running and I couldn’t tell from it when the shooting actually started. But it’s conceivable that he started running because he was shot. I’m not saying he didn’t have malicious intentions but it’s certainly not a cut and dry situation based off the evidence available.

    Edit: heres the link to what I saw - https://imgur.com/a/z3J25EB



  • Cooking. IDK why but everyone assumes I don’t know how to cook. I must fit a stereotype or something. The last time I lived alone I cooked (or had leftovers of something I cooked) every night for like 8 months. I tell people that and they are always surprised. It’s a big reason I hate living with roommates because the kitchen situation is so chaotic I can’t really do that anymore.


  • Maybe not a full blown slum but definitely slum adjacent up until we moved when I was in grade school. I don’t remember ever going without anything at home but my surroundings were pretty awful. I had my shoes stolen multiple times while I was riding the bus and would get chased home by older kids wanting to take my backpack and stuff or just beat me up. I remember me and the girl in my class who lived next door rushing to try and get there first every day so we could sit near the front and hopefully get off fast and get away to not get fucked with. Crime in the area was also really bad and there were a lot of break ins. The worst thing I remember was a lady up the street from us had a couple guys break into her home and they raped her in front of her kids. I think living in that environment fucked me up a little bit because I had all kinds of social issues at the new school after we moved. My brother was younger and never had to deal with any of that stuff and he turned out pretty normal.



  • I used to manage a team of people who were all remote except one and myself. It’s not hard. You set expectations and they either meet them or they don’t and you address those issues. I do think some of them struggled due to working from home creating a “barrier” to asking for help when you don’t know your coworkers as well, but I did everything I could think of to reduce that so they’d feel comfortable reaching out via teams (creating group chats, designating “helpers”, etc) or even coming into the office if they chose but there were very mixed results and in general things were worse than when we were primarily working from the office. I don’t think the problem is working from home, it was communication skills and some people just lacking the discipline to not goof off when they are at home (I’m one of these, I need an office environment to focus). That is a case by case thing though that needs to be addressed with the individual.