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Cake day: September 28th, 2023

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  • Recently lost my childhood cat and I am sure that he found a way to say goodbye. I knew that his health was bad for a long time and actually thought that my mother already took him to the vet, because we talked about the date and time and everything. Sadly I was not able to say my final goodbye, as I already had plans to travel to my grandma, who is also healthwise in a bad shape. Was not sure how long she would be around, so I priorized her. A sunny morning came along, 600km away from home and my childhood cat and I decided to go for a walk in the forest. Upon entering I was LOUDLY greeted by a black cat, looking similar to my childhood cat. You see, this is unusual. Went for so many walks there already and no cat ever greeted me. Normally people there do not let them outside because of foxes and a notoroiusly bad road with speedy drivers. But this cat obviously belonged to one of the houses bordering the forest. She was im dire need of love and I gave all the scritches I had. After a few minutes it had enough and playfully wandered off into the forest, looking back one more time. I had the feeling that there were adventures waiting for this cat, but it was nevertheless thankful for my love. Phoned my mom later that day, she told me the vet appointment got postponed to this exact morning. :(





  • Sounds like you are dealing with anxiety? I had a similar phase. After getting my license at 18 I did not drive for a very long time, because I did not have the money for a car. Felt very inconfident and even cried at the thought of getting a car, even if it was necessary. It took me a while to accustomise to the thought, then started driving with my husband on my side. Asking a lot of questions about situations in which I was unsure and warming up to the idea of driving regulary. And now it works!

    About the accident part: Had one when my license was fresh, while parking with my fathers car. It’s normal. My husband had three accidents after getting his first car, he was such a chaotic driver. I think the most ridiculous one was when he was stressed and wanted to park on a curb. But he was way too fast and the car of course took damage.

    So maybe take a small break from driving and accept your learning curve :) No one is born as an expert driver!













  • Actually this question comes in handy for me. I really need to acknowledge my efforts more. So let’s see:

    • Called in sick today. Did not risk that for more than a year, because of anxiety to loose my job. Acknowledged today that atm I need this physically and mentally, could literally not work because of exhaustion.
    • Made some really nice progress in therapy in the last few months.
    • Even if I am under (in my eyes) a lot of pressure I march on.
    • Other than work I take mostly good care of my health.

  • My mother telling me I should not think that she makes any money with me. (Backstory: Was living with her, dad paid alimony child support). I was baffled, because even when I lowkey suspected that, it was not even a relevant thing for our conversation at this time.

    A few years later, when I wanted to move out for studying it was suddendly a problem, because she could not make the full payments for her house without the alimony child supprt from my dad. So I stayed.

    Some more years down the line I finally wanted to move out, as I had a full time job in sight and wanted to live with my boyfriend. I was in my mid-twenties. Basically the conversation was the same as before, she could not pay for her house without me. She could not answer my question how she thought this would work out. Was she expecting me to live with her until she paid for the house? Because this would be up until my forties, maybe longer. The house is not big enough for two families, so it was never an option for me and my bf to move in. Of course I moved out.