I immediately thought of an Everlasting Gay. Like the Everlasting Gobstopper.

I cannot describe to you my reaction when he told me that story. It’s been 10 years and I’m still stunned.

There should absolutely be prostate cancer awareness!

I completely agree! Words have power!

If I see that sort of thing, I try and correct it. Gently. It never feels good when you get hit with a generalization meant for someone else, but especially when you dislike that generalization, too.

I still argue, especially when my ADHD meds wear off, and my impulse control goes out the window, but we can all at least try to be better to one another.

A male friend of mine who confides in me was complaining to me about how there are these ‘feminists’ talking about ‘toxic masculinity.’ Apparently he viewed some video where a guy was intentionally conflating masculinity with toxic masculinity. I didn’t know that at the time, I was just shocked, because he’s the biggest victim of toxic masculinity I know. When I said that, he asked me to explain, and I pointed to the fact that his father burned his sketchbooks (this was the 70s) because art is “for girls.” Which is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard.

When I explained that toxic masculinity is that, the emphasis to conform to some harmful version of masculinity, he turned on a dime so fast in rage at the asshole who conflated the two.

The thing that hurts my feelings most is when men are taught to forward toxic masculinity that harms them. When they’re forged into links in a chain that they would never wield if they knew better.

Well, no. I make sure to always emphasize men’s mental health, and I especially love talking about it in the context of Klingons. But… I can’t make every month mental health awareness month.

I got to be honest, that really bums me out.

I’m a person with C-PTSD who volunteers with local veterans. I really hammered home mental health awareness month. I mean, I talk about it all the time, but NAMI does some cool stuff during May. I even recall seeing some busses that had NAMI wraps on them talking about it in May!

Eta: I said elsewhere, and I’m saying it again (hope it sinks in), next May I’ll try and generate content and memes and stuff. Hearing that some of you didn’t see or hear anything during May has really had a massive dampening effect on my day. Ya’ll deserve outreach, same as everyone in my meatspace.

Of course it was. There’s a subsection of people who want to divide the folks who believe in things like men’s mental health, and also pride. You can do both. You should do both. Trying to move mental health month to overlap with pride is agitprop. Trying to make this a pride versus men issue, or a mental health versus men’s mental health issue, is coordinated nonsense. Don’t let them do that to you.

Advocate for mental health, and men’s mental health, every day. Celebrate mental health month, and include your male friends, like I do. But don’t let someone try and define men’s mental health specifically to overlap with something else, something that right-wing, manosphere assholes will tell you is bad.

Edited to add: I think part of the problem is that folks don’t seem to keep these things in their calendars or in their minds, and just react to ‘whatever month’ when they see image macros. Next year I’ll try and post memes about mental health awareness month during May. I’m not as good at advocating online as I am in person- I usually use the internet to unwind and shitpost and pick fights when my meds wear off. I’ll try and do better.

If ya’ll aren’t emphasizing men’s mental health, which is friggin epidemic, during the mental health month, it’s being done wrong.

Totally bad faith. Mental health awareness month is May. It’s non-gendered but it’s been May since 1949.

Source: NAMI. The National Alliance on Mental Health. I support them financially.

??? Mental Health Awareness Month is May. It’s super easy to remember because of the alliteration.

This joke is made all the better by the character’s name being Dr. Kalgary.

It’s just flickering static. You’re not missing out. :)

Not even crow’s feet.

I do a facial once a week. I do microdermabrasion once a week. I can’t stress enough that I hate the sun. I’m sorry if that isn’t your experience, but it happens. I’d share a picture of my face, but I’m trying not to completely dox myself.

Eta: And lots of water. Gotta drink lots of water.

See this is another matter. I don’t have wrinkles, but I went gray before I turned 20.

I know you’re claiming it’s not possible but I’m 38, I’ve done mostly night shifts and stayed out of the sun, I moisturize religiously and have since I was a teen, and I don’t smoke and barely drink (ADHD meds don’t play nice with alcohol).

I’m wrinkle-free.

Now compare to my sister, a few years older than me, used to tan growing up by laying out and getting a sunburn, has smoked since we were teens. Insanely wrinkled. Big, deep wrinkles.

This happens. I think the other person was being flippant and dismissive but… it happens!

I don’t know why others don’t but I’ll say why I do, which is that I noticed people were remembering my username whether I had an image or not, so why not have an image? And it was early days, still is, so I figured… may as well be the first static.

I support any woman having access to whatever she needs to manage their menstruation, because they’re fucking awful. But I’ve never personally been a fan of putting anything in there for any extended period. I assume anything we use for this purpose is poison, since science didn’t even treat women as people who exist until relatively recently.

Naw, just ADHD and my eyes jumped to the shortest bullet first.

You needed five points to get to saying you don’t know what I’m talking about?