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Cake day: August 13th, 2023

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  • Women are also fed lies that men don’t need emotional support. Also, women are told constantly that men don’t want to be friends with them and only want sex.

    So there’s a good chance his friends that are women think he’s not having a hard time and/or he wants to sleep with them instead of talk.

    I’m sorry OP that you are going through this. The advice to join an in person hobby or interest group is probably best. (To supplement your therapy)

    Also, it’s also entirely possible, since it’s been 5 months, that everyone is overwhelmed with life and the world. I know I’ve not reached out as often to my friends the last 6 months (I’m stressed by country and the grief of losing my dad a few months ago.)

    Also you say it seems like everyone is supporting your ex. Are they really? Or is she holding them hostage with her drama and steamrolling into their lives?


  • It’s not the same (obviously) but it depends.

    If I buy a bag of jelly belly candy, I will eat the whole bag until I have a stomach ache, and then eat until the bag is empty. So I buy smaller amounts.

    But other sugary snacks? I went cold turkey and cut out all sugar and it was all I could focus on, I craved sugar to the point of being miserable. I bought a bag of chocolates, told myself I could have one a day (like a mini snickers) - what happened will shock!

    I ate one a day, and sometimes not even that. Just knowing it was there as an option took away the obsession and I ate overall a lot healthier.

    So, yeah, I could do sugar in moderation with chocolate, but not with those tiny jelly beans.

    Whatever your addiction is, only you know if you can really do moderation or not.

    I know of other people that kept a pack of smokes or a pint of whiskey in the back of a cabinet. Knowing it’s there is enough, and they just keep putting off partaking until suddenly they realize it’s been a year or more and they haven’t thought about it in ages.








  • I have a handheld that I fill at the sink with warm or slightly cool water.

    I’ve got female parts so I angle from the front between my legs, so that everything flows front to back and then down.

    I change the angle and shift a bit to get the backend bits so it doesn’t splatter the front bits.

    The handheld bidet water stream is more like a water pick than a shower sprayer, so you can be pretty exact with this one.



  • I’m pretty sure all personal data leaks to me and my friends and family have nothing to do with personal EOL OS on personal PCs/laptops.

    My Dad, ran Windows 7 (yes, 7) until he passed last year, almost 80. We had his credit locked down, we had antivirus running, we kept the browsers up to date, and he was very good about not clicking weird links or calling fake support numbers.

    His biggest data breach (and ours too)? Was from myChart a couple years ago, he got a letter that his data was part of the big hack, yada yada yada free credit reporting - so sorry. If you don’t know, myChart is like The Main medical everything portal in the US at least for most doctors and hospital systems. So all your test results, making appointments, sending messages, requesting Rx refills, all through myChart’s website. The hospitals and doctors using MyChart can see pretty much everything in your myChart health record (some exceptions)

    So using super secure OS on your personal computer means nothing when you are part of a hundreds of millions data dump from someone hacking into that. Not having an account just means you don’t have access to your own records, they are still part of the system.

    But Yes, I was in the process of getting Dad an upgrade to a flavor of Linux that would be the closest to what he was used to. And the only reason was because browser support was coming to EOL for Windows 7. He really didn’t want to change or lose his solitaire games and he deserved a stress-free life to play his damn games like he wanted.

    THAT SAID - if businesses are using EOL OS and getting hacked - they definitely need to do whatever they need to do and protect their customer data. But EOL OS for an average person checking email, making doctor’s appointments, checking headlines, and playing solitaire while streaming music certainly doesn’t call for a need to panic.

    IF you are a power user doing sometimes sketch things (according to Apple/MS anyway) probably switch to Linux sooner than later.

    We have computers running Linux, Windows 10 (one of which was on 8.1 until a year ago), and Windows 11 in our house. The one on 11 is being tested basically, and will probably be reinstalled with Linux. But we are trying to give it a shot.







  • I have a 70+ year old friend that paper files. She doesn’t trust the free file places available here (USA). I don’t blame her.

    Ysk - You can order the forms for free on the IRS (& state) websites.

    I print things for her on my 1999 laser jet if she needs something printed.

    Many years I paper filed just to inconvenience them slightly for not offering free file.