Ultimately, only you can decide what labels apply to yourself. But to me, your experiences sound a lot like you may be asexual and demiromantic (and heteroromantic). I suggest learning more about those labels, in order to better understand yourself and learn from people with similar experiences. Understanding yourself better could, for example, help you be able to clearly describe what you want in a relationship and find relationships that suit you.

There is an extensive resource about asexuality here: https://www.asexuality-handbook.com/. I don’t have any personal advice to offer you because my experiences are very different from yours. But, in general, know this: attraction is complex. Romantic and sexual attraction are distinct and do not necessarily imply one another. It is possible to have a queer sexual or romantic orientation and also be heterosexual or heteroromantic. (And not all attraction fits neatly into the categories of “sexual” and “romantic”. It’s just that this is the most convenient for me to phrase it right now.)