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  • They are goons, but programmed goons. If you play to the programming then you will get their desired response. By forcing them outside their programming, they have to improvise.

    The smarter ones realise shooting first is a bad idea, politically. The stupider ones just want out, and notice the smarter ones seem similarly inclined.

    Staying within the programming is a lose-lose situation for the protestors. You need to get outside the patterns to get new results.

    It’s also worth noting that this is a very American thing, not a universal one. Your police are very broken, and in desperate need of an overhaul.




  • It was even worse than that.

    They were basically given the KSP1 codebase and told to rewrite it to be better. However, KSP1 was still being developed, and they didn’t want to demotivate the KSP1 team. Therefore they were banned from even telling them it existed, let alone ask for help or advice with the existing codebase.






  • That’s ok, not everyone gets that hit. A significant number of people (I want to say around 20%) don’t have the nerve connecting their pheromone receptors to their brain. It sounds like you are in that group.

    The bond will still form, it will just be later, and based on interactions, rather than hormonal. It’ll be worth it eventually. Just focus on being a good dad, even if it’s just by rote. It’ll come.


  • Believe it or not, that’s not an uncommon feeling. Evolutionary wise, there’s no particular reason for the dad to bond with the baby. It’s completely dependent on mum. What we get is often a spillover for the drive to get mum to bond.

    I was lucky and had that bond kick in quite quickly, but it’s ok if it doesn’t. Likely it will kick in around 6 months, as the baby becomes more “interesting”. Until then, be a good husband.

    It’s also worth noting that you are entering peak “emergency mode”. Right now the baby is completely dependent on you. It hasn’t settled down into a routine, and you are running low on sleep. They combine to utterly screw with your head.

    The mentality that got me through that zone was this: mum looks after the baby, I look after mum. I made sure she had regular meals. That she had time for a shower. That she could have a coherent night sleep.

    Something that might help is to sniff your baby’s head. Babies put off powerful pheromones, designed to reinforce the bonds. Unfortunately, not everyone has active pheromone receptors. If you do though, that smell is like crack cocaine.

    In short, you’re doing well. Baby is safe and cared for, and you’re doing your share of that work. Anything else is a bonus.


  • Be careful with the taking average mindset. It’s a default human one, and it’s being abused. A lot of media outlets (particularly American right wing) are mouthpieces for the same few groups or people.

    Instead, try and look at their biases. Do they have a reason to mislead you. What akin do they have in a particular game. E.g. the BBC is still fairly unbiased on a lot of world news. They are far less unbiased on middle eastern politics now.

    It’s an annoyingly complex problem to solve, on the fly.


  • Often it’s the shadow of violence that is most effective. A peaceful protest, that is safe enough for families etc is perfect for snowballing. Focused action and the threat of counter violence keeps the government in check.

    Too violent, and the support collapsed, letting the police simply overwhelm it. Too passive, and the whole thing can be ignored.

    The Irish troubles are a good example. Protests and marches showed popular support. While the Sinn Fein party provided a political face. The IRA then made sure that proper attention was paid. All 3 were required to achieve their goals.


  • The seller thinks the value is net negative to them. The buyer thinks it still has a potential positive value. Both would agree to just hand it over.

    Unfortunately, UK law does not allow that. Consideration must go both ways. The simplest way is to sell for the minimum reasonable amount. $1 is traditional in the US. In the UK it is £1. The other commenters link has a good writeup on the practice.




  • You’re likely picking up on her autism. Most aspies put on a (mental) mask to interact with others. For most it’s intended to be inoffensive and keep you in the background. Greta’s is focused on her goal. She would likely prefer you hated her, but knew about her causes, than be likeable, but forgettable.

    As for harmless, that’s part of the image. She’s as harmless as a friendly bull. It will happily get scratches behind the ears, but still walk straight through the wooden fence to let the cows roam free.


  • cynar@lemmy.worldOPtoParenting@lemmy.worldDamage resistant shoes
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    The leather school shoes are one of the current cycle. The ones with the sole wrapping over the toes seem to be the best so far. She still manages to mangle them however. They are also no good for PE or other uses.

    I’ll look into shoegoo however. I suspect skaters put similar wear and tear on their shoes.



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    If I know what I’m after, I can be in and out of IKEA in about 15 minutes. You can bypass the showroom entirely, and go directly to the market hall. There’s generally enough cross through routes to cut past 50% plus. The only downside is the lack of maps, you have to sort of memorise the layout first to not skip past what you’re looking for.