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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • Yay, boobies & locks!!

    Do you think the HRT could be making the feelings you describe in your first comment more intense? Female puberty is often a tumultuous time emotionally until the brain acclimatises, even as it brings great relief and many satisfying changes, and fluctuating levels at any time can have a similar effect.

    Be gentle to yourself, and try to do things you find comforting.


  • Not wild at all - who better to help with intelligence than defectors?

    Founder of the school I went to maybe somewhat similar to your idol, having had to flee himself once he spoke out against the regime he’d previously advised on education, then persuaded parents to send their teenagers to him after. It is said the war memorial is one of the few which has British and German in equal measure, so he wasn’t successful beyond keeping his own pupils safe whilst they were still his pupils.

    Wake every day overwhelmed with dread, and the clinging stench of death and misery coating my everything.







  • Going to come back to this to reflect in more detail to your original post and to this comment, but wanted to quickly float the idea that perhaps these people view you as particularly sound, so when they lay things on you or are just more emotional or intense in front of you, and you seem unphased - neither rushing to condemn them nor scrambling to reassure - they interpret that as disapproval from someone whom they find sound. And that because they value your judgement & integrity, they get sheepish and awkward in the absence of a strong outward reaction, which in turn you interpret as them thinking ill of you.

    Only suggesting this because have seen quite a bit of this between people, and experienced mild versions of both ends of that dynamic.

    Not that it helps, if it even resonates, or provides guidance.





  • Sweetheart,

    Choked up just thinking of how you are feeling. Losing a pet, and so suddenly is the worst.

    Please be gentle with yourself. Hesitant to suggest much, as you sound so vulnerable just now.

    What kind of things do you think might be distracting or soothing when you notice your mind has drifted into the self-blame stuff? Are there any friends who live nearby that you could visit?



  • Suspect your daughter may be downplaying things a bit here…

    She got the top result possible. Students who achieve First with honours (sometimes written as 1:1) have to be even better than excellent across their entire degree.

    Some years nobody on a particular course will do this well, because it is reserved for the exceptional.



  • YES & YES.

    So in ordinary moronland, just back from voting on a metre-long ballot comprising 6 Fascists (mercifully unpopular), 3 NazBols (could fool some), 3 Tankies (quite popular) & 11 assorted others.

    Now slinging Jagermeïster & have already mistaken some supposed local hotshot from the arts for a locum parish priest. He’s ever so slightly regretting having asked why I thought he looked familiar.

    Gonna regale us with tales from the front?