I forget what brand it was, but one of those fancy bamboo ones I think? The diapers are just white. The only way to tell front and back is by the tabs. I had a free sample. Did not purchase more.

You’re doing great. The fact that you care and are worried about screwing up speak volumes.

Babies are lazy. Milk doesn’t come instantly. It takes a little work on their side to trigger a letdown. Bottles are immediate. A lactation consultant may help, not sure if that’s already something you’ve tried. Some babies have a terrible latch so it can be super painful for the breastfeeding parent. There are tongue ties and there are lip ties. Both of my kiddos had mild lip ties that didn’t cause pain most of the time. The site kellymom was super helpful to me in the early weeks. Just ignore the super strict stance on BF-only. Just go for the tips.

Your wife is doing great. Do things for her, don’t just ask her what she needs and do it. Do things proactively. Bring her water, snacks, a blanket, etc.

It’s scary and I hate it. It’s giving me stress shits.

Hm kid hiking boots/shoes? Protect the feet so she’s not kicking stones with cheap shoes that’ll bust her toes.

My youngest lost her mind tonight because we didn’t have a purple toothbrush with the cartoon character she wanted. She was still mad about it when she threw a Yoto mini at me.

Good thing Mother’s Day is tomorrow here. Right? Sigh.

Your brother is lucky to have such a thoughtful and proactive sibling.

How old are you, OP?

Can’t won’t

I suggested she go potty before bedtime.

Those 12 weeks will be no walk in the park. You rightfully state you’ll be taking care of everyone, and it’s 24/7 juggling new dynamics and a whole new human being’s needs.

Yes, people survive with less time or no time off at all. I’m convinced some brag about it like some badge of honor to make themselves feel better.

Thank you for being considerate of your family’s needs. Good luck!

This doesn’t apply to a front loader, does it?

Just put them in a bubble.

I’m coming down with whatever plague my kid has, which was inevitable because she coughs and sneezes in my face regularly. The other night, she stuck her thumb in my mouth. The thumb she sucks.

You’re doing great. These tiny humans are very stressful and can be very difficult. It’s hard for everyone when they have limited means of communication. You are human, with human reactions. Be gentle with yourself.

And you probably shouldn’t throw things at them.

For sure. I told her that she didn’t have to, it’s not her job or chore. She’s 4, for context. I just want her to pick up her toys at the end of the day 😭

Mostly though, I want her to know that I appreciate her, and that I notice the little things.

What do you think would have been helpful for you growing up?

I like to tell my husband about various things our daughter does when I know she’s probably listening. “She helped me with dishes, I didn’t even ask. She just came over and said she wanted to help, so when I asked her to dry a pile of bowls, she didn’t even hesitate. She was so careful and gentle and so thorough.”

The clothing styles I wore in middle school are cool now, except those damn low rise flares will not work on me at 40 because my mid-section would flab out everywhere. Damn kids.

My shoulder still hurts from last week when I slept funny.

The idea of staying out past 10pm sounds terrible.

I almost set up a breakfast date with a friend for 7am.

I’m really excited for a larger capacity water heater.

I’m starting to do that thing where I look down to focus on small text right in front of me.

“abortion pill reversal” sounded like bullshit to me, so I looked it up.

Here’s what ACOG has to say: Facts Are Important: Medication Abortion “Reversal” Is Not Supported by Science

Friend of mine showed a screenshot that the official FLOTUS was just renamed to add “archive”

I didn’t want kids for the longest time. Then I met my husband and wanted to make a family. We were fortunate to have two lovely girls (after three unfortunate miscarriages). Actually, I think it was after the first miscarriage that my desire for a baby was truly solidified.

Life is chaotic and busy and expensive but I wouldn’t trade it for life before kids.