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TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.worksto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What word dk you think could be spelled different?English1·13 days agoNah, CH should be tsh, we need a new letter for SH, and maybe C could be the kh sound like in loch
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TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.worksto Technology@lemmy.world•UK’s Porn Providers Agree to Age Checks by July 25; Aylo, Owner of Pornhub, YouPorn, and RedTube, Will Add Age Assurance Checks.English421·14 days agoSo people too young or too privacy conscious to use those major platforms will move to nicher porn sites. Doesn’t sound like a bad idea at all… /s
TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.worksto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Can you please help me clear some doubts regarding LGBTQIA stuff?English4·19 days agoPardon me, but I did not understand this sentence at all. Can you please elaborate (or eli5) it?
Sorry about that! I was basically trying to say that if a trans person tells you their gender, and you then treat them like you would treat a cis person of that gender* (ie, any gendered behaviours that are still in society, you would apply to them - as much as we both want to abolish gender norms), then you’re doing great!
*things that are still gendered in our society include pronoun usage, calling someone gendered terms like brother, niece, etc, bathroom usage, single gender activities, and so in
I hope that’s any more clear, if it’s not I apologise!
What does this have to do with technology?
TheLeadenSea@sh.itjust.worksto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Can you please help me clear some doubts regarding LGBTQIA stuff?English71·19 days agoTo preface all this, this is my nonbinary bisexual person’s opinion, not speaking for all LGBT+ people by any means
My first question is, why do we have so many terms? I know the answer is somewhat obvious, that everyone has there own preferences, and it may not align with someone else, so to identify themselves, they would get a different label. (kinda like names, if everyone had same names, it would cause confusion) But I also want to ask, Is using a label not somewhat alienating?
Some people like labels, some like to just be themselves. As a cultural difference I’ve noticed Americans like to divide people by different characteristic more, as a general rule, than people from other places.
I am an old school guy, I use they/them/their for people older than me (as a form of honorification), with small children (it is somewhat amusing, and also children like it when they get respeect) and whenever I do not know what gender a person is, or how does that gender prefered to be addressed).
Then great, you’re already doing well!
But this gave me the thought, that why do we not use the same pronouns for everyone (for example they/them), or maybe 2 pairs, one for formal, one informal, or 1 more pair, for singular and plural. Why do pronouns have to depend on gender?
I’m absolutely with you, my person, if it was up to me grammatical gender would be totally abolished.
The second part is sexual prefernces. I do not know much about sex or sexual preferences. I am a young adult, and have not had to know about this for any person that I have met yet. I have never had the interest to know about this for someone, neither have I retained this information. I understand that if you are looking out for partner/s, then you would have to share this, so we would have to use some words for it. But why do we have to keep this as a part of gender. As in, why would I want to share this information with my governments (who do census), or for my visa applications. Should this not just be something personal?
Yes, it shouldn’t be something the government cares about, neither should gender. Ideally they shouldn’t ask at all, but usually there is a ‘prefer not to say’ option.
If a person tells me their gender, how should I react/respond to it? Is my current line of actions appropriate (just address them with their preferd pronouns, and if I do not know that, use they/them; completely ignore the sexual part of it)
If respecting a non-trans person’s gender would be doing the same things, to you, then sure
Another thing that I want to ask is, why do some groups use different acronyms? I remeber hearing about this the first time, and the word used was LGBT. Then I heard LGBTQ, then LGBTQIA+, and today I heard LGBTQ2. I presume that since more people are getting aware, and they are trying to express themselves, they need some newer words, and hence the acronym would keep on evolving, if so, is it not a endless exercise? Am I being insensitive If I use one over other (for quite some time, I have been sticking with lgbtqia+, in hope that + means extensions, as in, others, so hopefully it is less excluding than others, but if that is not the case, please correct me.)
Even LGBT+ feels a bit unwieldy to me, and yes, the + already includes all the others so the extra letters are for sure unnecessary. I’ve heard GSM (gender and sexual minorities) as a shorter acronym that doesn’t single out any specific identities, that might be better. For sure, I don’t like using acronyms with ‘queer’ in them as some people get offended by that word and an inclusive acronym shouldn’t offend people or make them feel ‘othered’ or ‘unusual’ for their natural human variation.
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Obviously this is a highly created summary and you know the details of your life better than me, but from this is seems like more that you missed your mother’s wedding because she didn’t communicate properly, not because you had to wash your hair.