So it’s a B.A.T. signal detector? 🤪🦇
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OpenStars@discuss.onlineto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Are there tips & tricks to quickly spot whether someone is a narcissist or otherwise on the "Dark triad"?English6·2 months agoToxic people can also be fun, helpful, and even friendly. They can also be toxic. As too can I. Generally you want to avoid toxic people if you can… but you can’t always do that (e.g. your boss, a parent especially if you are still young, etc.).
My advice is to focus more on yourself and your own issues, over which you have maximum control (and also responsibility). e.g. if several people can gaslight you, while nobody else around you is getting gaslit by any of them, then you are the common thread. I’m not trying to blame you to be clear - what do I know? - just offer food for thought (and anyway, it takes two to tango - so part of that would be their responsibility, but part is also yours?).
You can become immune to many forms of toxicity, by identifying those areas inside yourself that need bolstering, and working on them. Like therapy?
But that’s tangential to your point. Yeah it’s good to identity toxic YouTubers and avoid watching them:-). There are so very MANY red flags. And paying attention to those and avoiding the ones who display them is an example of you taking responsibility for your own mental health and stability - kudos! :-)
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Anybody else annoyed by news headlines being predominantly clickbaity now?English2·2 months agoNo, it is only you who are annoyed at this.
/s 😁
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•If you could move anywhere to minimize the impact on you of the worldwide rise of fascism...English192·3 months agoBold to presume that we would want to survive it.
Fwiw Musk says that he wants to leave Earth and go to Mars, which is great news for the rest of us:-).
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto News@lemmy.world•Man whose daughter died from measles stands by failure to vaccinate her: "The vaccination has stuff we don’t trust"English1·4 months agoYes there is that. It’s a tricky one too bc likely if you were to ask the kid, they would consent to whatever the family says to do. On the other hand, it’s definitely not “informed consent”.
Then again, I choose not to become thought police, so long as the parents themselves give informed consent. The alternative would be to take the child away from their parents, which is also a bad outcome.
Like I said, it’s “tricky”.
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto News@lemmy.world•Man whose daughter died from measles stands by failure to vaccinate her: "The vaccination has stuff we don’t trust"English1·4 months agoThese people tend to live apart from society. And I did say:
Especially if they will keep their kids in seclusion if displaying symptoms and wear masks themselves when coming into town.
To address that exact issue.
Perhaps you meant within their own society, but that’s different bc it is consensual. I am not about to force others to share my viewpoints, so long as they likewise respect mine.
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto News@lemmy.world•Reddit Is Restricting Luigi Mangione Discourse—but It’s Even Weirder Than ThatEnglish1·4 months agoThat’s odd, I think I saw the opposite, probably some weirdness involving the details there like Lemmy version or whether someone submits a report or not, or something.
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto News@lemmy.world•Man whose daughter died from measles stands by failure to vaccinate her: "The vaccination has stuff we don’t trust"English221·4 months agoUnpopular opinion: I actually respect this. It’s a personal decision not put upon anyone else, has nothing to do with political mis/disinformation, and is entirely consistent with the rest of their beliefs.
I don’t have to agree with them to respect how they choose to live their lives. Especially if they will keep their kids in seclusion if displaying symptoms and wear masks themselves when coming into town.
Maybe they’ll die, but that’s not my call to make, nor can I force them to live my way (nor do I want to).
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto News@lemmy.world•Reddit Is Restricting Luigi Mangione Discourse—but It’s Even Weirder Than ThatEnglish1·4 months agoYes that works. For you, but doesn’t help new people joining here from Reddit. Lemmy requires enormous curation efforts to become fully usable. But it does work… so long as you never mod any communities, bc you can’t afford to block those users who would then be able to post invisibly to you.
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto News@lemmy.world•Reddit Is Restricting Luigi Mangione Discourse—but It’s Even Weirder Than ThatEnglish2·4 months agoDoes that… matter to you? Okay then, yeah in the narrow sense, you very likely are - I don’t know of any such cases occurring within the past few years.
When I was on Reddit I started to become obsessed with winning arguments with people on the internet - many of whom were literal teenagers. So I decided to leave it behind, regardless of whether I could find somewhere else to go. It doesn’t lead to satisfaction or fulfillment, I found.:-(
Wouldn’t you rather enjoy a conversation here? Well, it’s your choice, I just thought I’d share a bit of my own story in case it might help you with yours.
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto News@lemmy.world•Reddit Is Restricting Luigi Mangione Discourse—but It’s Even Weirder Than ThatEnglish2·4 months agoI use it as my daily driver most of the time - it’s fantastic! There are some features that are annoying, so like Lemmy it’s still in development, but overall it’s much better for most things IMHO. Its search function (like Reddit’s) is crap, while Lemmy’s is amazing, but the whole overall flow with Topics and now Feeds really helps. e.g. if you wanted less political material, then you could just not subscribe at all to those communities (or avoid the largest, most contentious ones), but still access it via the Topic description up above anytime you wanted - basically allowing you to have your cake (no politics appearing in your Subscribed feed) and eat it too (yes politics, via another route).:-)
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto News@lemmy.world•Reddit Is Restricting Luigi Mangione Discourse—but It’s Even Weirder Than ThatEnglish1·4 months agoI mean… that’s how they make their money, so… yeah?:-)
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto News@lemmy.world•Reddit Is Restricting Luigi Mangione Discourse—but It’s Even Weirder Than ThatEnglish2·4 months agoBy having an external source of truth to compare against. In this case you could spin up your own instance, and as a mod you could see where all the votes were coming from, so you could simulate having the same set of defederations as some other instance. Anything that does not match up then warrants further examination.
People did something similar and found that lemmy.ml was modifying its internal database logs - though it was claimed that it was merely due to the newest software release that it alone was running at the time, before it got rolled out to become public. I never followed through on that further.
That’s all somewhat expensive to do, but basically if you run your own instance then you have total control. (Even then, you won’t know what’s going on inside of the OTHER instances that you do not control!).
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto News@lemmy.world•Reddit Is Restricting Luigi Mangione Discourse—but It’s Even Weirder Than ThatEnglish21·4 months agoOh I just meant that you might be surprised by being banned yourself - being there now, even if they have not come for you yet, doesn’t mean that they won’t in the future. Sorry, I suppose the eating leopards was misleading bc it could be interpreted so as to imply that you wanted some of those aspects, but I did not mean to imply that you did.
An example story of someone being banned there who found that fact surprising - in this case they were even told to kill themselves by a lemmy.ml mod, who said that he wanted to shoot the OP, but it was OP’s comments that were removed, not the mod who advocated for violence against him.
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto News@lemmy.world•Reddit Is Restricting Luigi Mangione Discourse—but It’s Even Weirder Than ThatEnglish3·4 months agoJust the fear of that alone was enough to cause dmv.social to shut down, back during the waves of CSAM attacks, before the automated software was implemented to filter it out.
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto News@lemmy.world•Reddit Is Restricting Luigi Mangione Discourse—but It’s Even Weirder Than ThatEnglish2·4 months agoThe word you are looking for there is “instance”, like for you lemm.ee is your instance.
And if you scroll to the bottom of any page, you can see the instances list of all the other ones that are connected or disconnected (the latter called more often “defederated”) from yours. lemm.ee is connected to https://lemmynsfw.com/, although it looks like something is wrong with the connection between it and feddit.org (e.g. it’s not reporting even the Lemmy software version for it, plus the encoding for the name looks different than on Lemm.ee - someone may have typed it in wrong?), so @affenlehrer@feddit.org you’ll have to contact your instance admins to tell them about that.
Even then, to connect to the communities for the first time is quite a process: you can figure out what the URL is going to be, then try to go there, then request to join, then wait maybe a day and the content should show up (but only new content form then onwards, while old stuff is a lost cause at that point). Most of the time someone else (with more experience) has already done this for you, but if they have not…
Btw PieFed solves all of these issues (except it might not allow porn? I’m not sure but I don’t see it anywhere there), whereas Lemmy is quite a bit behind in its software experience that it offers. The entire Fediverse though is more for the '“early adopter” mindset than like Reddit, where everything “just works” (so long as what you want is in alignment with increasing their profits). Using Lemmy is a LOT like using Linux - except here there’s basically no documentation that someone is pointed to, you kinda just have to ask or read and find stuff out as you go.
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto News@lemmy.world•Reddit Is Restricting Luigi Mangione Discourse—but It’s Even Weirder Than ThatEnglish51·4 months agoLemmy.ml is not defederated from Lemmy.world, so new users will see everything by default.
Also, “instance blocking” would be better named as "community muting’, bc it leaves users from those instances free to vote and reply to your content, trigger notifications, and you’ll still see it in other communities.
To truly block it, someone has to first even know about it, and then the only real options are all rather extreme - move to an instance that has defederated from them all (Lemmy.ml in particular is extremely rarely defederated from), switch to using PieFed, a Lemmy alternative written in Python rather than Rust, or the Lemmy apps Sync or Connect. Or implement a filter like with Ublock Origin or some such. None of these are trivial, and again, none are available to new users to even be told are possible, or helpful to be done.
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto News@lemmy.world•Reddit Is Restricting Luigi Mangione Discourse—but It’s Even Weirder Than ThatEnglish2·4 months agoYes, all of the Threadiverse (the forum based subset of the Fediverse) has only ~55k monthly active users. So if a significant fraction of a million people were to join, it would put significant strain on things - the hardware (especially network connections) alone would become swamped, and especially the moderation workload would skyrocket.
Check out PieFed btw - its advancements to enable democratization of moderation are fascinating! As just one example, during the signup wizard where someone says what interests they have and get subscribed to communities based on their answers (another feature Lemmy lacks), it asks people how much word filtering they would like to see about “Trump” and “Musk” - a lot, a little, or none (no filtering). Thus, users can define their own expectations as to the experience they want to see, rather than have that dictated to them by a mod.
Being written in Python rather than Rust, PieFed’s own scalability is definitely worthy to be called into question, but on the other hand it is already testing out so many features that people have been begging for on Lemmy for many years without seeing any hints that those features will ever come, while PieFed already has them. Things like categories of communities, just recently made user customizable and also shareable, so they act like multi-Reddits.
OpenStars@discuss.onlineto News@lemmy.world•Reddit Is Restricting Luigi Mangione Discourse—but It’s Even Weirder Than ThatEnglish11·4 months agoIf I may say, with all due respect (truly), Reddit highly encouraged “engagement” for the sake of those stats being sold to advertisers hence increasing their profits.
But here we are free from such. Breathe a sigh of relief at that… and note how we can choose to do things differently here.
Yes, I am saying this bc you are new, in hopes that it will help bring you up to speed and explain why people are downvoting you (I didn’t myself btw). I hope you don’t feel I’m picking on you. Okay, I’ll shut up now and leave you alone!:-)
Except the OP image says .exe so that’s not all that came in the package…