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Small scale permaculture nursery in Maine, education enthusiast, and usually verbose.
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Our town library’s plant and bake sale happened on Saturday, and we raised over 1200 dollars for the programs they put on - a 107% increase in donations from last year!
I’ve basically run out of small pots for bringing plants to market, but choose to see it as proof that my seed starting has gotten much more consistent. I do need to find more though, because I have something like 300 seedlings that need more space. Sent some texts and emails and also metaphorically begged for them during the plant sale so hopefully folks come through, since I refuse to commission the creation of more plastic.
LallyLuckFarm@beehaw.orgto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•how did you and your partner change after having a baby?8·2 months agoWe’re almost to our daughter’s 9th month of life. We’re both overtired and feeling overworked, with precious little of the time we used to spend on hobbies or couple-time. That said, while there’s been a shift towards an expectation culture in the house (vs an ask culture) we haven’t had the sort of challenges listed in that first paragraph.
Some things probably working for us:
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We’ve been together for over a decade and in our home for 9 years
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Our communication style is productive even during arguments (“I feel” statements are much more positive than “you” statements)
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We’re majority wfh so we have the capacity to buffer each others’ needs as parents throughout the day, rather than leaving everything to one person or having additional financial stresses with childcare
Some things definitely working for us:
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Calling each other out for awesome parenting, because very few others will and it’s amazing to feel that validation
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Proactively taking something off of each other’s plates, whether that’s cleaning or laundry, dishes or bottles, whatever task is getting done is one that doesn’t have to be done later
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Knowing about spoon theory and being sensitive to how much bandwidth each other has left. It’s way harder to recharge from past depleted, so being flexible and recognizing when I or my partner are reaching that point and stepping in or voicing a need for support goes a long way for both of us
How do you find the mental fortitude to ignore the stupid bs your partner does or says?
I mean, we’re both sleep deprived so I’m sure there’s stupid coming out of my mouth too. I think it’s much healthier to laugh or work to improve the condition causing stress than it is to feed a negative cycle. If either of us are escalating we missed a chance to bolster each other.
How would you describe love to your partner a year after having a baby?
Gratitude. I feel incredibly fortunate to have a partner who puts in the effort and has put in the effort to help build the communication style that’s worked so well for us.
Is there any way to know if you and your partner are going to make it and remain a couple after having a child?
It really helps to have a relationship built on respect, and knowing enough about yourselves to approach challenges constructively. Build a good foundation with each other, learn to communicate positively, and do your best.
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LallyLuckFarm@beehaw.orgto [Migrated, see pinned post] Casual Conversation @lemm.ee•What can you not say no to?English5·2 months agoNew plants or seeds I haven’t grown yet.
Welcome! We’re glad to have you here!
It’s not so much the crop you’re growing, but the weedy species around the growing space which will try to get to that space and will entangle themselves in the plastic interweave. Trying to remove them by pulling will just rip some of the material apart, which means bits of plastic left behind and greater opportunities for even more weeds to make it through.
Juniper helped dig up and split her very first plant, but very much enjoyed pulling them back out when we were potting up the cuttings.
We got accepted to both of the farmer’s markets we applied to this year, which means I wont have to find homes here ror the thousand-plus plants I started in our house. And the weather and overnight lows are finally reaching a point where I can start hardening off and transitioning them outside.
Today we’re out turning over the raised beds and surrounding mulch and soil to rebuild the beds, which I’ll do every few years. The chickens are out appreciating the easy access to the bugs and double checking on my angles of repose
If you mean agricultural felt, carry on. Other than that, most woven landscape fabrics are plastics and will not only break down and get into the soil but also make removing plants which grow through it harder to manage or remove
We’d love to see your project over in Nature & Gardening! I don’t know what your litter bags are like but your local library is likely to have old issues of newspaper that would also do the trick with a few layers put down. Some of those bags can have plastics which will break down and get into the soil organisms that do all that nutrient cycling for your plants, and your food.
LallyLuckFarm@beehaw.orgto [Migrated, see pinned post] Casual Conversation @lemm.ee•What famous people have you seen IRL?English6·3 months agoI’ve hung out with the Reel Big Fish and Streetlight Manifesto, and met Bruce Springsteen. Everybody was super down to earth and chill.
Once I was at a punk festival and chatting with a stranger about which upcoming sets we were excited for, and when this person was unfamiliar with a classic punk band I exclaimed “how can you not know Joan Jett and the Blackhearts?” only to hear that sentence repeated by someone behind me. It was Joan Jett, and I got to hang out on stage with their VIP group during their set.
LallyLuckFarm@beehaw.orgto U.S. News@beehaw.org•Thousands rally in 'Hands Off' protests against Trump policies and Musk-led government cuts9·3 months agoHave some more encouragement!
Taken in Dover, NH, this was at a 4-way intersection and all four corners looked like this
Good luck!
Last week I solicited a donation for our town’s seed library, which is hosted by the town library. They’ve never had so many seeds to give out or use for the community garden, which donates all the produce to the local schools and food bank. Here’s what ours looks like (imgur) for anyone interested in helping their local library set something like this up.
Yesterday, we played And Out Come the Wolves for Juniper and she seemed to really like it, she even started singing along with me (singing is doing a lot of lifting here, she’s not really doing words yet)
Our six month dr’s appointment is Friday, and let me tell you just how excited I am to ask the pediatrician about sticking to the vaccine schedule as it existed when Juniper was born, or about our options for speedrunning vaccinations should they begin messing with the certifications or supply chains.
For the past two years I’ve been communicating with the planning board of the next town over, regarding supplying plants for them to redo the municipal plantings with genetically diverse natives. With the forest service suspending the tree planting programs using IRA funds, I am unsure whether their project is going to move forward. Here’s hoping it does - we’re one of a number of small nurseries who would’ve been tapped (hah! tree pun) for the project.
In other news, our six month old is figuring out standing on her own by holding on to objects. I’d say more but I have to go clear everything off of everything 🙄
<3 I have a hard time believing that a conversation between us would be intended as anything but constructive.
Despite being deep in the feels of the day, I agree with you; I try my best to be that force for good as well, and live up to being the person she and other people have believed me to be capable of. There are days it’s difficult to see myself the way I view them, because of how well I can see my own faults and mistakes. That’s not to say that they didn’t have those same types of self perception, but those foibles seem larger when we’re looking at ourselves, I think.
I have high hopes of being that kind of role model, dare I say, hero to our daughter. My wife surely feels the same drive in her own way. But there’s something about having a grandmother figure who lived through desegregation and suffrage that seems, I dunno, grander (or at least more impactful) and it saddens me that she’ll only know her through memories, rather than firsthand.
This week started off strong - forward motion with the seed library project, and I managed to get another person involved in the project. Our daughter had her four month appointment yesterday, and the doctor was thrilled with her progress and remarked at some of the developmental milestones she’s hitting months ahead of schedule. Plus they gave us a super cute tote bag full of books - we’ve done a hundred or so of the “thousand books before kindergarten” challenge.
But last night I got a text from my best friend on this whole planet that his mother, someone I call mom as well, is in the ER. She’s got pneumonia now, as though Parkinson’s and touches of dementia weren’t enough of a burden. Other tests are showing that her kidney function is falling.
Her first home was firebombed because she had the audacity to teach impoverished children of color how to read in Alabama at the beginning of desegregation. She kept doing it. After she moved north she started a program for children on the spectrum before it was as understood as it is today - my friend and I and countless other people wouldn’t have been the same without her skills and understanding. She took me in when I was kicked out of my home, treated me like her own child, and taught me not just skills to manage my own challenges but how to do right in the face of what’s wrong. I wish my daughter could meet her and know her, to have an understanding of what it means to be a true force of good in this world.
LallyLuckFarm@beehaw.orgto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What is something that you've found 'defeats the purpose'?11·7 months agoA health insurer being permitted to vertically integrate a pharmacy chain to get around profit margin caps.
LallyLuckFarm@beehaw.orgto U.S. News@beehaw.org•UnitedHealthcare executive fatally shot in Manhattan, reports say14·7 months agoSpeaking on condition of anonymity, one officer stated that the current pool of suspects include anyone with any sort of knowledge of UHC’s method of making money. “We’ll proceed with the operation’s scheduling as soon as we receive pre-authorization, but of course,” he said, “pre-authorization is obviously not a guarantee that a given service will be covered.”
Thanks, I’m really proud of everyone who donated their plants and time, and for the folks in town for showing up like they did.