OP, you’re a good dad and husband. Keep trying and stay strong. I don’t know if I could do what you are doing, and I don’t have any advice to give, but just know I’m rooting for you over here. Nothing stays the same forever - one thing I do hear from people is that you blink and the kid is grown and you wonder where all the time went. I can’t say for sure if that will happen, but this lifestyle change is temporary, at the very least, and you’ll be feeling more normal as time goes on. Maybe once your son is more grown, there will be an opportunity to bond with him on a level you can’t reach while he’s an infant? Anyway, good luck!
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Furbag@lemmy.worldto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What technology will disappear in the next 10 years?3·10 days agoI came here to say exactly this. Well done.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Who is a fictional character you have (or had) a crush on?3·12 days agoIt’s always interesting to hear what animated character was somebody else’s furry awakening. For me it was Krystal also, but every time I meet a furry younger than myself, I can see clear distinction between what age group they belong to and which anthropomorphic character they were sexually attracted to as a kid, lol.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto News@lemmy.world•Kilmar Abrego Garcia says he was beaten and subjected to psychological torture in El Salvador jail50·12 days agoI feel so bad for this man, because even if he’s acquitted of all the charges, the insane right wingers will never let him have peace. They’ll hound him and his family forever.
Heck, even if he is guilty and the jury determines as such, it’s still not an excuse to torture him to death either.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto Games@lemmy.world•Young men are 'playing videogames all day' instead of getting jobs because they can mooch off of free healthcare, claims congressmanEnglish36·15 days agoAnybody who has ever been unfortunate enough to have to apply for any of these healthcare or food stipend programs would know that it’s not as easy as the government makes it seem. In fact, the amount of bureaucracy, means testing, and highly restrictive income limitations means that most people don’t qualify period and people who do qualify have to spend an inordinate amount of time waiting to hear back from the government to know if they have been accepted or not, all the while hoping and praying they don’t get sick and can manage their money long enough to continue feeding themselves.
Case in point, my fiance is out of work right now and actively seeking work. She applied for both MediCAL and SNAP and was denied for MediCAL because she had earned too much already that year to qualify and the SNAP benefits totaled out to $20/month in food stamps, based on historical income, which is insufficient even for the most frugal of individuals to make work. This is for someone currently earning $0/month and being almost entirely supported by me.
After a certain point, it becomes a massive drain on your time and resources that could be spent looking for a job, so you stop bothering with the system altogether because who wants to spend hours doing paperwork and submitting claims just to get enough spare change to buy a bulk bag of rice to feed yourself a struggle meal?
I don’t want to hear shit about “handouts” from anybody. My fiance paid her taxes faithfully for years without ever having to rely on the program, so where are her benefits? She has undoubtedly paid more into the system than she will ever extract.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto Technology@lemmy.world•Student visa applicants will now be forced to make their social media accounts publicEnglish16·17 days ago“I don’t use social media and never have.”
So what are they going to do if someone fires back with this? Deny their visa because they didn’t agree to be spied on by a few of the worst companies on planet fucking earth? Is the government going to be able to somehow make me prove that I don’t have social media?
We have the stupidest people in charge right now.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto News@lemmy.world•Trump Says He’s Moving Forward With Ending Birthright Citizenship After Supreme Court Gives OK21·17 days agoChange the constitution then. It’s crystal clear. We don’t live in a vibe democracy. You don’t jut get to pick and choose what laws you get to follow if you want to be a nation of laws at all.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto News@lemmy.world•Trump Says He’s Moving Forward With Ending Birthright Citizenship After Supreme Court Gives OK21·17 days agoThe thing about ending birthright citizenship is that it would just create a stateless individual. Where would they even deport children of undocumented immigrants to? Are they going to make an El Salvadorian gulag for them too?
The former SCOTUS ruling on the 14th amendment was really clear - if you are born here, you are a citizen regardless of your parent’s legal immigration status. I don’t understand why the SCOTUS is even bothering to hear this case when even a constitutional literalist would have difficulty trying to weasel-word their way into a ruling that supports the Republican position on this one.
I can thing of few things more cruel than a state that looks at a literal child who was born here, lived here all their lives, speaks the language, attends school, has friends and family and a support structure and would otherwise be indistinguishable from any other American child born to American-born parents, and deport them to a country they’ve never set foot in for no real discernible reason other than they are anti-immigrant racists.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•How many of you use Lemmy and ONLY use Lemmy vs Reddit?3·22 days agoI use only Lemmy. It was easy for me since I pretty much only used Reddit until the mass exodus happened about a year ago and then shortly after they killed the RiF app for Android and I lost the way that I consumed Reddit 95% of the time so I transitioned to using Lemmy full time. I didn’t have much of a choice unless I used PC to access Reddit, which I will still do from time to time for niche subjects, but I avoid posting.
I’ve never had any other “traditional” social media accounts. Call me a hipster, but I thought that shit was lame when people were constantly asking about adding me on MySpace or Facebook and just never bothered to jump on the bandwagon. Eventually, when it came out that those places were cesspools run by unethical hacks I avoided ever signing up intentionally and thanked my lucky stars that I was a grumpy and rebellious contrarian in my youth. I think I was forced to make a Facebook account to use my Oculus VR headset, but I put in as little factual information as I could get away with and never interacted with their terrible algorithm.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto Technology@lemmy.world•‘Martyrdom or Bust:’ Texas Man Caught Plotting Terror Attack Through Roblox ChatsEnglish5·24 days agoI still can’t get over that the dude’s name is actually Burger, and Burger isn’t being used as a mild slur to mean “American” like I’m typically used to seeing in these sort of greentext posts.
Real life is too wacky.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Am I the only one who thinks social media has destroyed the spirit of the internet?15·24 days agoWe could go back to the old internet any time we wanted, but people have been supping on the convenience aspect of having everything bundled into easy-to-digest “apps” that they would have to deprogram themselves first and come to understand that finding shit on the old internet used to take work. Small wonder that people hear that X (formerly Twitter) is going to be the “everything app” and like the idea of that. I personally find it horrifying how many people are glued to social media, and meanwhile I’ve never had a Facebook account, never had Twitter, never had TikTok, and I’m still doing just fine.
We let corporations get their sticky fingers on everything, so now everything has to be profitable or it isn’t worth anybody’s time. Even YouTube videos are now all about maximizing engagement, interaction, and viewer retention so that the uploader can collect a paycheck from Google. I don’t give a fuck about whatever excuses they use to justify it, people still made great quality content before YouTube partnered with people for revenue sharing.
If TOR wasn’t so godawfully slow, I’d be using TOR and visiting .onion sites for everything. It perfectly recreates that “old internet” feeling of web design that has function over form and small communities built around niche topics.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto Technology@lemmy.world•Half of companies planning to replace customer service with AI are reversing courseEnglish35·1 month agoThank fucking christ. Now hopefully the AI bubble will burst along with it and I don’t have to listen to techbros drone on about how it’s going to replace everything which is definitely something you do not want to happen in a world where we sell our ability to work in exchange for money, goods and services.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto Games@lemmy.world•'No gay, no pay': The RuneScape community is absolutely mauling Jagex's new CEO over his decision to cancel new Pride Month eventsEnglish1531·1 month agoCancelling a pre-loaded pride event because you’re scared of right wing nutcases being mean to your playerbase is the very definition of letting the terrorists win.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Has anyone checked on the NRA recently? They seem to have been pretty quiet since the tyrannical government that they've been warning us about for decades came to pass. I wonder if they're ok?22·1 month agoThe NRA never actually gave a shit about any of that. It was always a front for gun lobbyists to stoke fear so people would stockpile more weaponry that they definitely didn’t need while also promoting the American political faction that would be less likely to pass gun control legislation that would harm their bottom line.
Republicans were just useful idiots. They do not care if Trump is an oppressive tyrant as long as he doesn’t even think about the word gun control. If tomorrow the positions on gun control reversed, you’d see a flip-flop so Orwellian it would make you question your concept of objective reality.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto World News@lemmy.world•Greta Thunberg departs Israel on flight to Paris after detention aboard aid shipEnglish3·1 month agoDid she ever accomplish anything other than going to places getting arrested and changing absolutely nothing?
It’s got you here talking about it with your terrible opinions, hasn’t it?
Take a look at this image and tell me if you think these guys accomplished anything other than going to a lunch counter and getting arrested and changing “absolutely nothing”?
Not all the protestors are involved in criminal activity. The news is constantly reporting that 95% of the crowd is peacefully exercising their right to protest, but a small minority of people use the situation to their advantage and cause chaos. The media then reports on these (accurate) instances of violence and then right wing talking heads run away with that and paint the picture that everyone is looting and rioting and attacking cops.
It’s also a known tactic to have provocateurs incite a riot so that the people in power can use it as an excuse to crack down on an otherwise legitimate protest.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto News@lemmy.world•California Gov. Gavin Newsom is floating a federal tax boycott9·1 month agoYou can withhold paying your federal taxes from your paycheck. Most people don’t because they don’t want to get stuck with a big tax bill in April with no way to pay it if they spent that money or lost it on a bad investment. if enough people all did that at once, regardless of state, it could put a big financial burden on Trump. The government heavily relies on this steady source of income, and unless you make a lot of money, you are probably getting a federal return every year, which means you gave the U.S. Government an interest free loan of sorts.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto Technology@lemmy.world•ChatGPT 'got absolutely wrecked' by Atari 2600 in beginner's chess match — OpenAI's newest model bamboozled by 1970s logicEnglish29·1 month agoCan ChatGPT actually play chess now? Last I checked, it couldn’t remember more than 5 moves of history so it wouldn’t be able to see the true board state and would make illegal moves, take it’s own pieces, materialize pieces out of thin air, etc.
Furbag@lemmy.worldto News@lemmy.world•Newsom brands Trump a ‘dictator’ after National Guard deployed11·1 month agoTrump verifiably tried to steal the 2020 election on live television. Even though he failed, his attempt came close enough to succeeding to give pause for thought. There are fewer guardrails now than there were before to prevent something like that from happening again.
So, to that point, I say why wouldn’t trump cheat again? He was never punished for his last attempt. In fact, he was rewarded for it!
We’re never having another election that won’t have doubt cast on it from either side. We burned that bridge on January 6th.
If the Ayatollah can’t have it, no one can!