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  • I can see you have already gotten a lot of good advice, but I’m still going to share my story

    For a man, getting a child is boring as fuck the first half a year. That’s just how it’s. Most mom’s essentially gets a head start on bonding with the kid by being pregnant. And its super normal not feeling anything, it just takes time. Just do your best getting as much skin-to-skin contact, I think it helps with the bonding. And its super important for the child, so win-win. If you do it mostly while they’re sleeping, you can watch tv, look at your phone. And if you have one of those gaming chairs that recline all the way back, you can even play computer if you’re into that.

    Then we wanted another kid, and after like half a year my wife got pregnant again, and we’re where super glad. But I think a couple of months before the kid came out, I got postpartum depression. And I fucking hated my own kid, I could not stand her. And wanted nothing to do with her. I half remember not wanting anything to do with the baby, but honestly everything is a haze from that period.

    In the end, I think after half a year, my wife gave me a ultimatum, either I seek professional help or we breakup and I leave for good. And that was the kicker for me half realising I needed help. Lucky at the time, I was 24 years old. And therapy is free when you’re under 25, as we had no money.

    I think I went to therapy for a couple of months, and luckily I was slowly getting better.

    Now it’s about 3 years later, I don’t have an inch of depression anymore, and I love my kids more than anything.

    Last month we just got our third kid, a now it’s way easier bonding with her, because I already know what it entails. But it’s still true, it’s boring as fuck, she just lays there, and don’t do much of anything.

    But every month something new happens, and it’s gets just a little better.

    My other kids are now 3 and 5, and they’re the most fun I have ever had with them. I pretend to be s monster and I chase them around, and they running and screaming for their life, while laughing their ass of! it’s honestly one of the best feeling and I love it.

    But I won’t pretend everything is good. We still have to raise them, and it’s still hard work everyday! And a lot of time, it’s not fun getting angry at your kids, because they straight up just don’t listen to you.

    All I wanted to say, at first, it just seems like ekstra work and it’s! But over the next couple years, when they start becoming an actual human, and you can start playing with them. That’s when all the work starts paying off. And Luckily time goes fast when you get kids, almost too fast. And now my oldest is starting school next year, and I already feel like I’m not ready for her to grow up that much!

    It will definitely get better, it just takes time, and everything you’re feeling, is valid and normal. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!

    And please just ask if you would like to know anything, or want me to elaborate, if I have explained something badly. I wrote everything on mobile, so sry for formatting or spelling mistakes.


  • Drigo@sopuli.xyztoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world[Deleted]
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    25 days ago

    Many games people play, like counter-strike, League of Legends etc is all games you can’t pause. That’s really where the problem comes. If you kid wakes up, you have to leave the game, which sucks and even have penalties. So most choose to not play, because of that and watch tv series instead.











  • I haven’t played RCT so not sure how I compares.

    But Factorio is first of, a sandbox game. You can build however you want in your own tempo. Not sure what you mean by finicky?

    But I don’t think it’s tedious micromanagement at all. it feels super good when you build something new and it works. And there is so many technologies and it’s jus fun exploring how everything works together and coming up with new designs!

    There is also enemies, but can be turned off if you just want to focus on building a Factory. I mostly play with them, building up defences and killboxes and making automated train supply that comes with ammo, wall, etc.

    It has a demo you can try out. It’s scenarios so you try out different base mechanics in the game. But the actual game is a sandbox game.