I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I’m going to troll you back. FAFO.
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Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What are the most sedating foods per se, not necessarily needing to be full of it to get the sleep aiding effect?4·11 days agoValerian root. It’s GABA active. Smells like either manure or freshly rained on soil though depending on your nose in a similar way to how cilantro taste varies between people. It’s what’s in sleepytime extra.
Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Fellow Lemmings, in work-place conversations (like conflict resolutions, negotiations etc), where you feel you are being misunderstood, how do you manage to realign the conversation?1·11 days agoI’ve noticed in codes I just have to step into the middle of the room put some bass out from my chest and point at people and give simple instructions (and these are psych codes so it’s usually “ALICE -> THAT ARM. BOB -> THE OTHER ARM. CAROL -> LEGS. DAVE -> GO GET THE RESTRAINTS.”
But then sometimes something very unexpected comes up like a very large patient dropping their weight into a weird position. So the important thing there is to hopefully come up with an idea quickly and give the simplest way possible to explain to everyone to move as a team. But sometimes someone else comes up with a good idea before me and then you go “CAROL’S RIGHT. ON THREE WE’RE GONNA ___.”
So. 0. Know what the fuck you’re doing enough that you’re respected as an authority figure.
- Confidence in posture and voice.
- Point and use simple instructions.
- Confidence doesn’t mean ego. Recognize a good idea when you hear it and use it.
Probably not what you were asking but I hope it helps.
Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•In this day and age is it possible to create a commune? With majority of vegetables coming from one acre and all put in to get wifi to our subdivision? So the bill is not that high?4·21 days agoyes it’s very likely to either get torn apart by interpersonal tensions such as infidelities or economic power struggles or just devolve into a new age cult of some kind, and usually some combination of all three from what I’ve seen of those kinds of communities.
Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Is it wrong or uncommon to judge people primarily on their worst moments/acts?1·23 days agoworking in psychiatry for as long as I’ve had, the people I admire most are actually the ones who are just decent every single day. the ones who know everybody’s kids names and remember everybody’s birthday. I don’t know how they do it. I became the person who helps pull apart people trying to bite each other’s faces off because idk how to remember birthdays and I was hoping it would be something people appreciate but day to day it actually really isn’t and the reason why becomes obvious pretty quickly. the people who make the biggest difference in people’s mental health are people who know how to plan a good Friday night get-together and how to follow up when they haven’t heard from one of the invitees for two weeks in a row.
the only mental health thing I’m aware of being publicly available is commitments, and in most localities that requires an initial involuntary hold followed by evaluation and a hearing. and even that I think only counts for clearances, gun rights, and possibly licenses concerning public safety such as doctors, social workers, etc. rando employers should not be able to access that info afaik (this is a summary of the relevant part of the speech I give to patients when they ask if they want to change their status to involuntary and what the process looks like if the doctor disagrees that they need care, what their rights are in that situation, etc.). even with that idk that they can see what you were committed for just that you were. I’m not sure how hard they’d have to dig to get access to the mental health board evaluation that led to the commitment. I talked my way out of a commitment after an involuntary hold and have had a few incidents since where I even talked myself out of the hold to begin with and it never even affected me getting licensed (fellow cluster b PD here, hiiiii).
Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What's up with media mentions of Period Trackers so much, do women need a special calendar or something to actually know when thats going to happen and plan around it?2·23 days agoI have borderline personality and premenstrual dysphoric disorder. I was so unmanageable as a teenager (and twice a month since my cycle was coming every two weeks) that my fundie parents put me on birth control at 14 years old.
Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What's up with media mentions of Period Trackers so much, do women need a special calendar or something to actually know when thats going to happen and plan around it?2·23 days agoalso helps to plan difficult conversations if it’s something that can wait a few days or that could wait a week but you know you need to do it sooner rather than at the end of the week when she won’t be able to respond as charitably. me and my husband keep track of each other’s hypomanias and depressions for similar reasons.
I think we should make all work legal for the worker. They can be here, they can receive wages, their kids go to school. as As long as they don’t commit any crimes just let them exist, whatever.
…but hiring someone without a visa should be extremely illegal. Like decades in prison illegal. Should fix the rampant human trafficking pretty quickly. A lot of these employers do it because they don’t have to worry about treating the workers fairly. They should be terrified of illegal workers telling on them. And after they’re done telling on one human trafficker let them go find another job and tell on him too. If we were tossing people in prison for hiring illegal immigrants their job market would dry up immediately and the problem would resolve very quickly.
people need to think more about who is actually benefiting from illegal immigration and go after those people. because it’s not some lower than minimum wage laborer, it’s his employer who found someone who’s too scared to tell OSHA that the sharps bin is overflowing and APS that meemaw has been sitting in her own shit for three days. Immigrants aren’t taking my job, sketchy employers are trafficking human beings in who are willing to be paid less while being abused and who will be too scared to say anything about the really scary shit they’re being made to do and watch.
Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•Anyone actually say during an interview that the reason they want the job was because they need money?3·24 days agoa more useful question would be,“out of all the ways you could make money why are you thinking about this one?”
Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Instead of asking all my stupid questions separately, could I just get a ton of "How to Adult" type resources in the comments?2·25 days agoAlso, psych nurse protip - this is how you use this to talk someone out of a panic attack. Use the above conversation template plus the following nonverbals / paraverbals:
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start by reducing stimuli (think five senses!). Reduce the noise and lights, and try to get away from any particularly offensive smells or sensations.
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you can try to get the crowds and stimuli out of the area, but it will probably be easier to move the person panicking. Getting crowds of people to do things is very tricky. It’s usually just easier to move the one person.
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talk at about half to a quarter of your usual speed and volume
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use common English words (no SAT vocab). Enunciate clearly, and don’t use more than one conjunction / more than two ideas per sentence. Their brain can’t chew / digest as much as all at once.
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Do not stand directly in front of them and especially do not corner them. If you feel unsafe you can still stay closer to the door than they are but try to stand slightly to the side to give them line of sight to it.
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if you want to practice / really up your game, learn to deepen your pitch slightly / resonate / speak from your chest while still keeping your volume down. Imagine James Earl Jones reading a meditation script on YouTube. This has an added benefit if you work with seniors, most age-related hearing loss is in the upper pitch ranges.
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Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•"Can i ask you for a favor?" Is it rude to say no?6·28 days agomy usual answer when I’m suspecting some kind of boundary-pushing behavior is “well you can ask…” …but I have to hear out my psych patients, you don’t owe strangers the same obligation.
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Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•When your the big spoon how do you keep your earthward arm from falling asleep?6·29 days agoAlso called “jetpacking” (especially if the smaller person is gassy).
Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Food service workers, what's the strangest kitchen request you ever saw someone order?2·1 month agoOne time I took a box of gingersnaps to coldstone creamery and had them mix it into chocolate almond ice cream. Apparently they won’t do it anymore even if I bring a still commercially sealed box like I did.
Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Lemmings who have personal experience with bipolar disorder (self, family, or friends), how hopeless is the situation, really?5·1 month agoI’m an inpatient psych nurse. I see there are already 40 answers, so what are your specific ones for me?
Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What's the dumbest way you've sustained an injury, and what was the injury?4·1 month agoI began my psychiatric nursing career working as a behavioral technician on a unit for criminally insane men. I worked there for two years and was even promoted to lead tech in charge of making the assignments for all the technicians for the shift.
Other shifts and other units were sending staff members to the ER at least every few months related to aggressive incidents. Not us. Only thing was a guy had a stroke near when I was starting and while I think the job did do it to him, I think it happened over the many years before I worked there.
Two months before I left I sustained the worst injury I ever did at that job taking care of criminally insane men …I shut my own finger in a door.
I was rushing too much while grabbing hygiene / shower supplies for a guy one morning. Big heavy solid wood heavy latch and hinge with a long metal strike plate running top to bottom psych ward door. The tip of my finger swelled up twice as big, the nail turned black and eventually popped off. Looked weird as shit for a few months.
Meanwhile one time I was helping separate two guys where one was trying to bite the other guys face off and I kinda blacked out for most of it but I do remember seeing the other guys jaw working trying to gnaw at the guy I was holding. Anyway apparently there was a point where I was under both of them on the floor because like three people came into the restraint room while I was with face-bitey to ask how I was and as the adrenaline wore off it turned out I was a little scuffed up and bruised up…
But holy shit did shutting my finger in that door hurt so damn bad I legit thought I was going to lose the finger and it took over a month to heal!
Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What are your seasonal sinus pressure alleviation tips9·1 month agoAm an RN.
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When you elevate the head of your bed (In this case to help the fluid drain out of your head / sinuses), don’t put the extra pillows under your head, put them under the mattress. you’ll fall to the side as the pillow pile collapses too much to be useful while you’re half awake, but if the whole head is up you just gotta wiggle your way back up if you wake up congested. You can also stuff extra blankets and stuffed animals or whatever else you have under there for extra lift (although at a certain point if you don’t have a footboard the mattress will start sliding down. You could also try sleeping in a recliner chair if you have one.
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All fluid used in a neti-pot MUST be sterile, or you’ll get brain worms / amoebas. You can get sterile saline from the wound care / bandage aisle in the pharmacy, or you can make it at home but make sure you let the solution cool so that it is NOT boiling before putting it in the neti pot.
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Traditional Medicinals Throat Coat with slippery elm is the GOAT for sore and scratchy throats, which can happen as the fluid drains.
Also did you take real sudafed or fake sudafed? Phenylephrine is literally a placebo. Pseudoephedrine is the stuff you want but you may need to show ID for it because it can be used to make meth.
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Apytele@sh.itjust.worksto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•What Fantastic (and Janky) Things Do You Do With Leftover Packaging?1·1 month agoWhere tf was this when I was a kid?
I’m CN on this one but interestingly hubs reports this choice:
