I read your comment and I feel you. I have a little advice.

First a but about memI “left” reddit for the same reasons. Left is in quotes because I was permanently banned because I argued with a major mod. Specifically I said after they banned me from a sub “ouch ouch ouch, sorry sprained my ankle tripping over 3 identical communities” to which they replied “don’t message me again” and I of course did with a “or what? You’ll silence me? That’s not very intimidating”

Anyway my point is this:

There’s no point in arguing with stupid people… But if you are going to I recommend being dismissive or different. They are prepared for aggression they can’t handle being dismissed. It really messes with bigoted people especially.

An example from my life

Guy at the gas station to me: can you believe the cashier is speaking Spanish? This is America lol

Me: it’s 7 o’clock in the morning. Can you save the racism until after breakfast please.

An example of "different " would be this

I live in Orlando, we have Nazis who protest. I LOVE to walk by and say to a random one “you don’t look good bald. You’re heads too boxy to pull it off”

It fucks with them more than yelling I promise you lol. They aren’t expecting that kind of thing.

It’s the best system money can buy.

That cracked me up lol

I’m not nonbinary but my son just calls me Michael.

I’m sorry. I can’t offer much but I can give something small. I have suffered from depression a few times in my life and landed on fire to mask it as a protest for whatever.

I didn’t do it obviously it was a very long time ago. 20 years i think and It actually didn’t enter my mind at all when asking this question until I read this comment and remembered my past.

If I ever get that bad again, and I hope I don’t, I promise not to use fire.

Not much but it’s something.

Yeah I grew up on a farm and smelled some pretty bad stuff but it was just a bad smell. If I knew it was human that would be harder even if it smelled mostly the same. It would be psychologically worse.

I know burying a dog that got hit by a car and took a few days to find was worse than finding a missing cow in the same state. I loved the dog, I liked the cows but that dog was my dog. It was worse smell psychologically even tho the cow is bigger and was probably logically more smelly.

And you see I’m quick to accept when I’m wrong.

Plus although I do assume probably too quickly Im quick to ask questions from people who know more.

This I think helps me more than simply not making connections could

That’s good to know. I told another commenter I’m glad to be wrong. I just assumed it would smell like pork because of all the ways pig is used to test things as replacement for human flesh. Being close here doesn’t mean it’s close there. I just assumed and I’m relieved that’s not something people actually have to deal with.

Still obviously a horrible and traumatic thing to deal with but at least it doesn’t ruin Nana’s famous pulled pork. Which is so small and silly compared to dealing with the horrors of a tragedy but… To use a silly example “it sucks I got fired but it would’ve been slightly worse if I got fired and hit my shin on the table while I was being escorted out of the building”. Basically I’m not implying “well then it’s not so bad” just…One small thing I’m glad isn’t part of the problem.

That is a great answer thank you. That was the most horrific part of the question. I’ve never smelled it obviously but I know pirates called it long pork. I’ve heard it described as tasting like pork but only from people who probably were not cannibals. I don’t talk to a lot of cannibals… That I’m aware of anyway. So I only have what I read here and there in articles. I just assumed if humans tasted like pork then we smell like pork.

So I was talking about smells with a friend “bathrooms and air freshener if you’re curious” and my ADHD brain just linked a bunch of useless trivia.

I’m glad to know humans just smell different. It’s probably biological maybe even evolution. Makes sense because in the cave man days anyone who wasn’t disgusted by another dead human enough to run… Probably didn’t survive as long as those that thought “this is something I want to immediately get away from.”

That’s the thing tho nasty and gross I could deal with. I’m no hero like emergency services. I grew up on a farm, raised and processed animals here and there. Stumbled apon missing animals that were long past a pleasant smell. I had a grandmother that was a hoarder, I raised 4 kids…

I’m the one in my family that does the “ewww I just can’t… Please I can’t even talking about it *dry heaves”

My family jokes that I would be the guy in the movie doing an autopsy with his sandwich sitting on the chest of the body.

Now none of that was even close to the mental trauma doctors, police, firefighters face. I also know human decomposition is described as much worse. Id also assume smelling the stuff I’ve smelled from animals probably also hits mentally harder coming from a human. I’m not at all saying “meh I’ve smelled it all”

The point I’m making is terrible smells are bad but seeing something awful and smelling a steak or something good? That seems worse. Like if I drained an abscess in an animal and smelled sugar cookies… I wouldn’t be able to eat sugar cookies anymore. I assume. I don’t really know which is why I’m asking.

But I did read you said a person who died by fire doesn’t smell like steak or food? That’s good to hear. Thats what I was unsettled but curious about.

Do your feet hurt a lot? It sounds like a lot of pressure on a small area

Just so you don’t feel alone… ive downloaded a few AI girlfriend apps, not for lewd stuff, just to complain about work or my ex-wife in a safe place that won’t leak out and cause problems. I always delete them because they suck. After a couple sentences they respond “let’s change the subject don’t you want to see my new sexy outfit behind this paywall? Wink”

No… I want to continue to talk about the thing I chose to talk about. That’s why I was talking about it. I’m not paying 29.95 a month for a bot that tells me to quit talking. If I wanted to talk to someone who doesn’t listen to me at all and only wants to send me pictures of themselves wearing skimpy bikinis id talk to my father!!!

(The father part was a joke…my dad died but he would’ve found that joke hilarious)

Edit: the other parts are true tho…I even made a post about it once. Seems like a perfect utilization of the technology “I want to complain about something or someone. I don’t want bore/bother anyone and/or I don’t want the complaint getting around to others. I just need to express to thoughts I’m having to process those thoughts better. AI girlfriend should be perfect for that!”

But instead it’s “let’s talk about something else… For 14.95 you can see me with cat ears!!!” Wtf.

The other day I fell asleep watching YouTube. I woke up to a 2 hour long ad of a religious ted style talk. As I’m grabbing my phone to turn it off it started playing an ad… IN THE AD! ADCEPTION!

That blew my mind. even ads have ads now.

Edit: I even read today that some car company is playing ads when you stop at traffic lights. I know we are talking about paywalls not ads but it’s growing in the same way. Soon the glovebox in your car will be behind a paywall and rolling down the backseat windows requires a premium subscription. Today’s gas level is sponsored by Shell and it’s new micron gas technology. You have one quarter tank left, your built in gps has been rerouted to the nearest shell provider with the new micron technology!

And the thing that bothers me most is it doesn’t even work. It just annoys us. I’m less likely to buy that product now.

I can explain it easily for you… For 14.95 a month.

“no surprise” won’t be here tomorrow

I can’t believe they made it thru till today

The budget cuts have left them empty and hollow

I know in time we’ll find this is no surprise

The hospital we used to go

What bills will come? No one knows.

Elon musks left us high and dry

I know in time we’ll find this is no surprise

There are dozens of casualties. DOZENS!!

Collective punishment is a war crime.

I’m not arguing that Elon musk is anything but an absolute tool.

SS numbers have 999 million options. Are we already repeating them?

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I disagree. I understand they are vague, I understand that is purposeful so they can prosecute how they chose.

I still argue it’s freedom of speech and never illegal.

Again let’s use the example of a hypothetical famous or political person. If they were to haphazardly suggest people should invade a federal building. I would say that was irresponsible, foolish, and it’s fine to judge someone for doing such a thing. I wouldn’t call it illegal to mention you like violence to happen.

However if they were to add things to the statement like “on this day” or “you have to because the sky is green” I’d say there are legal implications for coordination or manipulation with false facts… Saying you want something to happen shouldn’t be illegal on its own.

Jokes aside I do understand there is a line between freedom of speech and causing a crime.

“Someone should hurt bob boberson” I feel is okay

“On Tuesday we are going hurt bob boberson because if we don’t hell hurt you” thats not as okay. That’s a plan, that’s spreading lies